Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You

If you’re the parent of a teen, you know first-hand that your teenager isn’t telling you everything...uh, make that...anything about their life. We interview teens (and other non-teen experts on teens) to help you gain valuable insight into your teenager’s world. Because parenting is hard AF. Your hosts, the dynamic duo of Cathy Chen and Meredith Herrera are teen experts (yes, that’s a thing!). We have worked as college admissions officers, prep school administrators, and have coached and mentored thousands of teens in our lifetimes.

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Episodes

7 days ago

Amid the pile of college applications, seniors are often encouraged to attend rep visits—but what exactly is a rep visit, and why should your child take full advantage of it? In this week’s episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, Cathy and Meredith explore how you and your teen can maximize the benefits of college rep visits at their school. They break down why these visits are important, and what to do (and what to avoid) while attending, and Cathy shares one of the most commonly missed opportunities during rep visits. You’ll also hear about the types of questions students should ask, which ones to skip, and what demonstrated interest is, and how it can sometimes play a role in the admissions process. If your child hasn’t mentioned anything about rep visits at school, be sure to check in with them or reach out to the school for more information. Tune in now for all this, and more!
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:03:00] A timely, yet practical, issue that is today’s focus.
[0:03:25] What we mean by “rep visits”.
[0:04:00] Why it’s a good idea for students to attend these sessions.
[0:05:10] We explain what these sessions encompass (from first-hand experience)!
[0:07:40] What to do when you show up to your scheduled rep visit.
[0:08:45] What not to do at these rep visits.
[0:09:23] The main purpose of the rep’s job.
[0:10:20] A major missed opportunity Cathy has seen in these visits.
[0:11:00] Our thoughts on the types and range of questions you can ask.
[0:12:50] Why a little bit of prep in advance is not a bad idea.
[0:13:10] What questions you should and shouldn’t ask.
[0:15:30] Showing up to visits in respectful ways.
[0:17:20] Why email communication is encouraged (for the right reasons).
[0:20:00] Life as a rep and what makes it just that little bit better.
[0:22:10] Why it’s not the end of the world if your child can’t make the rep visit.
[0:23:18] We talk about demonstrated interest and how reps play a role.
[0:24:13] How demonstrating interests varies but often involves attending formal programs that the school puts on.
[0:24:46] What demonstrating interest can look like.
[0:26:00] The types of schools that look at demonstrated interest.
[0:26:40] Taking note of how reps respond to savvy questions.
[0:27:15] Checking in with your child about school visits and doing some research on them.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Wednesday Oct 02, 2024

Parenting is incredibly difficult and stressful as it is, but when you add the college admissions process, that stress multiplies! So how can we help you find the best way to help your child through this process? Today on the show, we are discussing the role of parents in the college admissions process. Tuning in, you’ll hear about the danger of controlling your kids and trying to get too involved in this experience, why parents often have a dated outlook on colleges, and the importance of reminding your child that you will be proud of them regardless of the college they go to because their success and worthiness is not defined by the college they go to. We delve into how you can support your child through this process before discussing how parents can manage their anxiety to protect their children from potential damage. Hear about how your approach to this process can make or break the experience for your child, be reminded to meet your kid where they are and bring humility into this process by accepting that there are people who know what they’re talking about and can help your child. Finally, we urge you to recognize the impact you will have on this process for your child. The children who have the most positive experiences can largely attribute that to the role their parents take on in this process. Thank you for listening to another episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You!
 
Key Points From This Episode:
 
[0:02:05] Why we decided to speak about the role of parents in college admissions.
[0:04:04] Why trying to control your teenagers through this process only increases stress. 
[0:11:52] Being really careful about your level of involvement in this process as a parent.
[0:18:07] The importance of telling your child that you’ll be so proud of the college they go to. 
[0:21:13] Some ways to support your teenager during this potentially difficult process.
[0:26:21] Trying to maintain perspective and find healthy ways to manage your anxiety. 
[0:27:52] The danger of expecting a certain level of maturation from your teenagers. 
[0:33:32] Why parents need to bring humility into the college admissions process. 
[0:35:22] How you can affect your child’s college admission process positively or negatively. 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Wednesday Sep 25, 2024

When we come in hot, fully activated to defend and advocate for our children, we may end up causing more harm than good. Sometimes, as parents, it’s essential to check our tone, take a breath, and approach situations with curiosity. Think of it as a partnership. Join Cathy and Meredith on this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You as they dive into a discussion about when it is and isn’t, appropriate for parents to step in and how to handle school drama without the 'Mama (or Papa) Bear Meltdown!' They explore different examples, discussing how a parent’s tone can completely change the entire experience and why, when necessary, you shouldn’t be deterred by red tape when advocating for your child’s needs. They also highlight key aspects of a well-received intervention, what to consider when making requests, and why it’s crucial to think about what you say, how you say it, and to whom you’re saying it. Be sure to tune in for all this and much more!
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:01:00] A timely discussion as the school year kicks off.
[0:02:30] Subscribe and share our podcast!
[0:03:20] When is it, and isn’t, appropriate for parents to step in at school.
[0:04:45] Some situations where parents shouldn’t be playing any role.
[0:07:00] An example of when it could be appropriate for parents to step in.
[0:08:35] The importance of your tone when stepping in.
[0:09:15] We look at other examples of when stepping in would be appropriate.
[0:13:10] Don’t be deterred by red tape when advocacy for your child is needed.
[0:15:30] Any time you are concerned about your child’s safety.
[0:15:45] What gets parents in trouble when reaching out to schools.
[0:16:30] We delve into the best approach for stepping in.
[0:19:45] An important aspect to remember when reaching out with requests.
[0:22:00] Try to approach things with curiosity, and not as an activated parent-warrior.
[0:25:40] How the college process can also bring forth bad parenting intervention.
[0:28:50] Providing critical information and context about your child’s health.
[0:33:55] We share the only time when parents reach out is bothersome.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episodes
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A Sh**ty Life Update From Cathy

Wednesday Sep 18, 2024

Wednesday Sep 18, 2024

Today’s episode is about perseverance, resilience, and letting go of the things we can’t control. Earlier this year, Cathy received news that the lump she found on her body was indeed malignant, but the most important thing is everything she did after receiving the news. In today’s conversation, we learn about Cathy’s diagnosis and how she processed this revelation before exploring how Meredith came to terms with the news. We discover why and how Cathy’s plight fits perfectly with the themes of this podcast, how she’s maintained an optimistic outlook throughout her journey, how you can build a similar mindset of positivity, the keys to harnessing resilience, and the value of community in helping you overcome life’s struggles. To end, we unpack the dangers of toxic positivity, and Cathy shares her final words of gratitude – yes, you heard right, gratitude!
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:01:55] Cathy lets us in on her recent cancer diagnosis.
[0:03:33] Meredith’s first experience of seeing Cathy receive treatment.
[0:05:38] Why Cathy’s struggle complements the themes of this podcast.
[0:07:13] How she’s managed to maintain a positive mindset since discovery.
[0:12:26] The best practices for cultivating and maintaining optimism.
[0:18:31] Why Cathy continued to work even while in treatment – building resilience.
[0:21:43] A reminder of the undeniable power of community in navigating life’s storms.
[0:26:00] How to manage your worrying habits, and a side note on toxic positivity.
[0:30:17] Cathy’s final words of gratitude – yes, gratitude. 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Wednesday Sep 11, 2024

It’s mid-August, and college application deadlines are fast approaching. So, get ready for more 'college stuff' as we dive into how to write kick-ass supplemental essays that will make you stand out to admissions! In today’s world, most schools require at least two to three different supplements with their application, and highly selective schools often ask for even more. Join Cathy and Meredith as they share their insights on all things college supplements, including why colleges ask for them and why you need to take them seriously. They’ll explore different themes and templates, discuss how supplements can reveal what a college truly values, and guide listeners through a few key essay questions. Be sure to tune in for all this and more! And remember, make sure your kids don’t phone it in because admissions officers can tell!
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:01:00] College applications are due any minute, have you turned on the Common App?
[0:01:30] What today’s episode is all about.
[0:02:15] Our views on supplements: the feelings and thoughts behind them.
[0:07:28] Using supplements to discourage applications. 
[0:08:00] Why colleges are asking for supplements and why they have to be taken seriously.
[0:09:25] Why you need to have a nice, small, tight list of potential colleges.
[0:10:35] A quick look at the book Lifting the Veil of Enrollment Management.
[0:11:44] The themes often seen in the template of college supplement requests.
[0:13:28] How supplements can reveal what a college cares about (do your research!)
[0:15:25] Biggest mistakes we’ve seen in the college essay-prompt format.
[0:16:30] The importance of belonging to a community.
[0:19:00] We talk about a certain trend and “haze of skepticism” around adolescents that doesn’t seem to play well in a community.
[0:21:40] An asterisk for those who don’t know what they want to major in.
[0:23:00] Identity and the challenges with this essay.
[0:26:30] Love yourself for who you are and show up as your authentic self.
[0:27:30] The hard parts of the social issue essay.
[0:28:30] A great place for parents to model and open up conversations.
[0:31:20] Why Meredith doesn’t necessarily like the social question.
[0:32:20] The adolescents of today versus those in the past.
[0:34:00] The roommate letter.
[0:35:15] The boom in popularity for the one-liners.
[0:38:00] What not to do in the favorite quote section.
[0:39:11] The net takeaways from our thoughts on college supplements.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Common App
Lifting the Veil on Enrollment Management: How a Powerful Industry is Limiting Social Mobility in American Higher Education
The Daily Pnut
Dear Kitten
Village Coaches Free Webinars
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Wednesday Sep 04, 2024

As children grow and transition from middle school to high school, their world inevitably becomes bigger and more complex. And rightly so! Welcome back to another episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You. Today, we're turning our attention to the ‘littles’, our middle schoolers! Join us as we explore how to best prepare your middle schooler for the journey to high school. We dive into how to best prepare your middle schooler for the journey to high school by exploring two of the biggest transitions: academic and social. We also discuss some of the most common issues freshmen struggle with, the evolving role of parents, and how boundaries begin to shift, along with why it's crucial to create a safe space for your kids to have those confusing conversations with you. Don’t miss out as we cover all this and much more about getting your littles ready for high school. Thanks for listening!
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:00:50] What listeners can expect from today’s episode.
[0:01:30] Common topics in the transition from middle school to high school.
[0:03:00] The most noticeable differences to expect from middle school to high school.
[0:06:00] How the social dynamic also changes.
[0:07:45] The culture shift for students who change schools (to a new high school).
[0:08:30] We discuss some of the things freshmen often struggle with.
[0:09:30] The lack of high school coaching on how students should learn.
[0:10:45] Why students need to build and adjust good study habits.
[0:11:30] How students can become proficient in advocating for themselves.
[0:12:45] The parent role and how they can help their kids with these transitions.
[0:15:00] The importance of teaching kids how to reflect.
[0:16:16] Normalizing asking for help.
[0:16:40] The freshmen social concern.
[0:20:20] We talk about the shift in grades freshmen often encounter.
[0:21:40] How the boundaries of what is appropriate for a parent start to shift.
[0:25:55] Going over the school’s handbook with your child and other school policies.
[0:27:10] Attending the parent orientation sessions.
[0:27:50] Getting familiar with the content in content your children will be exposed to.
[0:30:55] Let’s talk about parties! (And what exactly the word “party” means)
[0:31:50] Boundaries, parents. Adjust them to be appropriate for your high schoolers.
[0:32:40] Setting up the stage for your kid to feel safe to have confusing conversations with you.
[0:34:15] We look at screen time and how that changes as kids enter high school.
[0:36:30] Keeping the long-term goal (college) in your focus.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You on Instagram

We're Baaaaack!

Wednesday Aug 28, 2024

Wednesday Aug 28, 2024

Welcome to Season 4 of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You! Join Cathy and Meredith as they dive into the real conversations and hidden truths of teenage life, bringing you more fresh insights and practical advice to help you navigate the teen years with confidence and understanding. Are you ready for candid discussions, expert tips, and plenty of laughs? Stay tuned for a season packed with stories and strategies (and maybe even some songs) to make parenting your teenager a little bit easier and a whole lot more rewarding!
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:00:45] Welcome to Season 4 of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You!
[0:02:10] What to expect from our upcoming episodes.
[0:03:08] Your invitation to subscribe and leave us a positive review.
[0:04:36] Insight into our recent goal-setting getaway.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You on Instagram

Wednesday May 29, 2024

As the end of senior year approaches, a widespread affliction known as senioritis begins to affect many American high school students. In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we explore how to recognize telltale symptoms of the “itis,” address some of its more serious consequences, and offer practical advice for encouraging seniors to make wise choices, even as their motivation wanes. We also share strategies for striking the right balance between letting teens enjoy all the fun and excitement of senior year while emphasizing the importance of a strong academic finish. Tune in today for your comprehensive guide to conquering senioritis, overcoming high school burnout, and ensuring your teen’s success!
 
Key Points From This Episode:
 
[0:04:03] Trademark indications that your kid has come down with senioritis.
[0:07:41] Consequences of senioritis, from summer school to losing scholarships.
[0:12:32] Why it’s important to discuss these consequences with seniors.
[0:15:41] Advice for parents to help their kids make better choices.
[0:19:01] Reasons that absences and tardiness should not be tolerated.
[0:21:20] Opportunities to remind seniors of their place in community.
[0:22:41] How much assertiveness and guidance is required from parents.
[0:28:06] Why this is a special time to bond before your kids go to college.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Wednesday May 22, 2024

It’s May, so our seniors are heading off to college! And as the sun sets on high school, fatigue, burnout, or even simple wanderlust may lead many to explore the option of a gap year. Welcome back to Shit Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You as today, we explore the highs and lows of taking a year’s break between high school and college. After explaining why we chose today’s topic, we learn about the reasons for wanting to pursue a gap year, the first steps toward taking a gap year, the dangers of taking leave to improve your academic record, and our guidelines and best practices to carry you forward during your year off. We also dive deeper into exploring the value of a gap year, gap year pre-package programs, the power of intention, and how a gap year can also be a way for you to take the time to focus on your mental health.    
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:00:49] Why we’ve chosen to speak about gap years. 
[0:01:53] Everything you need to know for your first steps toward taking a gap year.
[0:06:13] The reasons that kids and their families push for gap years.
[0:08:18] Assessing the dangers of a gap year to improve your academic record.
[0:10:23] Gap year options, guidelines, and best practices.
[0:12:55] Understanding the value gap year, and why it can always be seen as a gift. 
[0:14:06] Gap year pre-package programs. 
[0:15:26] How to overcome the fear of falling behind.
[0:17:32] The disadvantages of taking a gap year; why intention matters.
[0:20:45] Gap year programs for mental health. 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You on Instagram

Wednesday May 08, 2024

One of the questions we hear several times a week is about applying to college. We kick off our conversation by weighing in on whether or not you should tell your high school college counselor that you are also consulting with an IEC, or private college counselor. We touch on what you should and shouldn’t disclose in your application, how many times you should take the SATs, and the role of AP scores in building your profile. Join us as we chat about all things waitlists, letters of continued interest, recommenders, and more. Lastly, we unpack whether or not it is worthwhile to add in portfolio work or any other documents that you think may strengthen your case. Tune in today to hear all this and more! 
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:01:47] What this episode is dedicated to: FAQs related to the college application process. 
[0:02:11] Should you tell your high school college counselor that you are working with an IEC or private college counselor?
[0:05:09] Whether or not you should disclose a learning difficulty or mental health challenge. 
[0:10:24] A different perspective on the influence of disclosure on your college application.
[0:12:00] The number of times necessary to take the SAT.
[0:15:14] Answering whether or not you should include AP scores.
[0:16:35] How to get off of a waitlist and whether or not it’s worth it to send a letter of continued interest.
[0:20:03] How to choose a recommender and ask for their letter.
[0:24:23] The appropriate number of letters of recommendation to include in your application.
[0:28:52] Considering whether or not it is worthwhile to include a portfolio of work unrelated to the field of study.  
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You
Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You on Instagram

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