The Delulu is the Solulu! What to Do When Your Kid Has Wild Expectations

Delulu is the solulu! This viral social media phrase encourages people to stay optimistic and self-confident in the face of challenges and remain grounded even in wackiness. Today, we look closer at the delulu side of things and try to find solutions to the common teen misconception that fame and success are achievable with minimal effort. We discover how the pursuit of instant gratification has made teens more delusional than ever, how inexperience informs delusion, how adults contribute to and even fuel the fantasies of teens, and how nothing great is achievable without hard work and dedication. Then, our hosts share vital advice on how to coach teens toward realizing their goals before debunking the societal pathway to success. We end with the differences between a life’s passion and moments of periodic interest, and we learn how to cultivate commitment and resilience in our teens.  

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:01:40] Delulu is the solulu: Finding ways to be grounded in wackiness.  
• [0:05:10] Why teens are more deluded than ever, starting with instant gratification. 
• [0:06:48] The way life experience informs delusion and the allure of big tech.  
• [0:09:07] How parents, teachers, and other caregivers contribute to teenage delusions. 
• [0:11:16] The way teens underestimate the hard work necessary for success.
• [0:14:18] Best practices for teaching your kids how to achieve their goals.
• [0:15:48] Debunking the societal (educational pathway) fallacy of success. 
• [0:17:11] How to help teens distinguish between a life passion and a seasonal interest. 
• [0:18:46] Cultivating commitment and resilience.
• [0:21:44] Our final thoughts on the role of caregivers in eliminating teen delulu. 

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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